So, for the past month or so, I have been back in DUS, worshipping at my local Anglican church again. Now, a moral question…
Is it fair for me to avoid “babysitting service” for two member of the church? I know it is better to give than to receive, but sometimes I feel the need for some “me time.”
It’s often said that single people, especially men, are the overlooked people in a church. Maybe that is true. Those with wives/girlfriends/husbands/significant others head home after the service for Sunday lunch and stroll and family time. Some of the single people need fellowship.
Now, here’s the twist. What should you do if you feel people expect you to babysit you every Sunday afternoon – on their terms? In the last three years I have kept two single men company afte church, which trips to villages, coffee and chat, while they let off steam to me. That’s fine. Romans 12:12-15 and all that. Lately one of them has literally breathed down my neck inviting me to head to the pub for a chat. Last year I did that and ended up as his bereavement counsellor, sitting in a pub for hours, normally on bright sunny days. In recent weeks I’ve declined his invitations, but suggested to him that he join a group of us for a stroll round the local woods.
Reply: “Oh, sorry I can’t, I have another appointment later in the day.”
Sorry, folks, everyone has a limit. My time, my terms, I’m afraid.
Have a moral day, won’t you!