Equal, but not the same

This public improvement film shows us all that men and women are indeed different.  No, it’s just about anatomy.  (By the way, the clip is from a 1990’s British comedy series.)  Women’s brains are different from men’s.  If you ever want to read about the differences between the two different genders’ brains, go to your library or local bookshop or Amazon dot wherever, and order yourself a copy of any of their books.  If you want try a little experiment, place a copy of Why Men Want Sex and Women Need Love on your coffee table before you have guests turning up for your birthday party.  It’s amazing how quickly people do a double-take and grab the book to look for the sections on sex and on love.

Barbara and Allan Pease are right.  No matter what:

  • Race
  • Religion
  • Creed
  • Nationality
  • Age
  • Level of education
  • IQ
  • etc, etc

men and women are radically different.

I’ve learnt this in recent weeks.  Schatz has started a new job, and it’s not a bed of roses.  When she’s been talking to me about issues at work, I’ve acted in a very man-like way (combined with the business analyst approach) of finding a solution to a problem.

  • What is the mess?
  • What are the options?
  • What is the best option?
  • How do we get to that option?

While sitting in Starbucks on Königsallee, Düsseldorf, this morning, it then dawned on me that women don’t always want a solution when talking about a problem.  Often, they want and need TLC, a kind word and a listening ear, not “helpful suggestions” and:

  • Have you ever considered…?
  • Why don’t you…?
  • If I were you, I’d…

We live we learn.  I need to take Diogenes’ advice:

We have two ears and one mouth, because listening is twice as important as speaking.

Have an attentive day, won’t you!

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