So Sunray. What do you write for his eulogy? After all, given his fondness for The Famous Grouse and copious amounts of rose wine, the time cannot be far away for his funeral and nice words to be said. But what more can one say in a eulogy besides the following?
When was nice, he was nice, but when he was nasty, he was very, very nasty.
Jesus tells us in Matthew 7:1-6
1“Do not judge so that you will not be judged. 2“For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you. 3“Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? 4“Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ and behold, the log is in your own eye? 5“You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.
Yes, Sunray is (I can still use the present tense – for now) is a grumpy old man with a long track record of violence, mental and physical cruelty towards others, including members of his own family.
Yet, to quote Larkin,
They muck you up, your Mum and Dad…
Yet they were mucked up in their turn…
(Actually, Larkin used a different word from “muck,” but as this is a family blog…)
So, while we cannot always forgive, even if we’d like to, and we cannot forget, perhaps we should just pause and reflect on what people will say about each of us at our funerals. Well they be saying about you, “I’m relieved he’s/she’s gone”? Is that the imprint you want to leave in this world?
Think before you drink before you act.